I am the Relax, Know and Trust Lady. It’s what I do. It’s what works. And if asked, it’s the message I share with others, too.
I was a person who was sure I could figure anything out if I just put in more effort, more time, more work. I wanted to succeed and was willing to work for it. I put in long hours, worried and lost sleep.
I knew good self-care habits; how to eat healthy, meditate and exercise. And, the more stressed I got, the more of the good habits I left behind in my efforts to work harder. I gave more of my time to work. Often, these work situations I didn’t cause and couldn’t control, and I didn’t want to believe I couldn’t fix. I would think if I could be creative enough, think of the right words or logical argument, I would be able to accomplish everything on my to do list. Not.
I worked in the non-profit world, often with amazing people. People motivated me to want to figure it all out, whether my coworkers or the families we served who had more than the average amount of life challenges. I wanted to be sure staff got raises, families got services and waiting lists were eliminated. And sometimes, there weren’t services available for families and the backup systems couldn’t help either. Regulations changed often. Eventually, I hoisted the white flag and surrendered.
Surrendering meant I did what I know works: Relax, Know and Trust. Relaxing for me does not include reaching for alcohol, drugs or sweets. I find they cause more problems and self-loathing on top of the original stress. Relaxing for me requires I shut off the outside world and quiet my mind. I take time and space for myself. I need to breathe, deeply. I need to be able to hear my soothing, peaceful higher self, God, and the guidance offered within me.
When I relax, I tap into wisdom and knowing which will be able to help me decide the next right thing to do. Relaxed, I take pen to paper and write out what I know. I know the kind, loving, spirit who has been with me this entire journey and tells me I am delightful, is present, waiting to communicate with me. There is no chastising; no, “Where have you been?” There is a smile for me. The spirit is happy I have chosen to connect whenever I choose to connect. The spirit knows me, loves me and wants what is best for me. And, is honest with me in a loving way. The have to’s and shoulds fall away as we communicate about what is at hand and what I need and what I want to do. I document the entire conversation. It’s important to have in writing what I know in this relaxed state because history has proven this is how I know the next right thing or direction for my life.
And, it’s priceless to have what I know in writing when trust is the next step on my path. I relax into trusting, knowing everything will work out. I have plenty of experience with everything working out. However, the feelings in the moment can be very uncomfortable while trusting everything will work out. I don’t get to pick the time table when things will happen. And affirming the plan helps in my resolve to act on the plans or directions I now have laid out and to stay the course.
My life has had plenty of challenges. I have a sexual abuse history that started as a young child. I come from a divorced family with a myriad of health problems including alcoholism. I have had to set boundaries, limits and work hard to resolve obstacles to my growth. Today, I love my family and I love life. I get to help people by delivering messages with an ability I was told I needed to keep secret because people would think I was crazy. I witness people begin to transform their lives while we are together for an hour connecting with those who have passed on. I see lots of tears. I am relaxed with tears because I know and I trust they are healing, heartfelt and often joyful.
I wonder, when was the last time you used the word joyful in your life? As the Relax, Know and Trust Lady, I use the word joyful in my life almost daily.
It doesn’t mean my life is pain-free. Walking with people as they heal some of life’s deeply painful hurts, definitely impacts me. Relaxing and knowing I am on the right path and trusting everything works out, brings me joy. I am grateful, humbled and feel privileged to be able to do the work I do, delivering messages. I understand even with the ability I have, not everyone would choose to do the work I do. I get to help people heal and that’s pretty cool.
I invite you to embrace your life path, whether you are called to contact me to receive a message you are ready to hear or follow these three simple, although not always easy, steps. Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. You, too, have intuition. It may not be to the degree that I do and, it’s been there all along. The question is, will you let it help you?
When I questioned whether I could deliver messages for a living, I was shown a road which began at my door and extended through hills into the horizon. On it, were people 3 and 4 across, completely covering the road, coming to see me to receive their messages. I knew my services would be in demand. After resigning a full time job and making space in my life for this healing work, the picture changed. People were also relaxing on the first two hills. On the right, people were reading books I had written and on the left, I was leading a workshop.
Join me and embrace your life’s path,
The Relax, Know and Trust Lady
The late Gene Siskel, interviewer and movie critic, asked Oprah Winfrey, “What do you know for sure?” She couldn’t immediately answer. It took thought and consideration. Eventually, this question became a monthly column in her magazine.
Saying we know something for sure, reveals who we are and what we believe. When choosing what I know for sure, I expect it will remain true over time. Mediums use their 6th sense to communicate so are considered psychic – although not all psychics communicate with those who pass on. As a medium, I communicate with those who have passed on. When delivering information, evidence is information that verifies what is being reported is true. I experience my own evidence from the readings I provide as the result of being a psychic medium. What follows is my evidence or 5 things I know for sure as the result of being a psychic medium:
I know for sure, love lives on.
Psychic medium reading after reading, event after event, spirits come through with information and support to guide us because love lives on. Spirit wants us to find our true purpose and live our best lives. We can get stuck along the way with grief, feelings of remorse, depression and loss. We are human, and the experience can be overwhelming in the best of times. Our loved ones and spirit guides provide evidence of their love and support through a myriad of ways when we are open to experiencing this evidence. We may be seeing their favorite things or hearing their favorite songs, or seeing an advertisement for somewhere special you traveled together. Communication is the most direct way you know your loved one lives on, whether they communicate with you or through a medium.
I know for sure, we are not alone on this journey.
Spirit dads, moms, grandmas, grandpas, friends, sons, daughters and beloved dogs have let me know they were there on earth and provide support now from the other side. At readings, I have seen family members in spirit gathered to support the person in for the reading.
I know for sure, I witness healing daily.
Last week in 3 separate readings, three different spirits, who were actively alcoholic on earth, came through with messages for the living. Each message was different. Their departures from life as we know it ranged from 1 week to 25 years ago. Each spirit provided evidence for the recipient with facts from their life. It was powerful, and each recipient was grateful for the message and its healing impact.
I know for sure, spirit decides who will come through with what messages.
I encourage clients to invite spirits they would most like to hear from and yet, spirit decides who will bring forward which messages. Sometimes the spirit who shows is exactly who the client most wanted to hear from and sometimes it is someone the client had not thought about in a very long time because the person had died so long ago. Watching time fall away as the message brings them right back together and makes the relationship whole again, shows clients love lives on. The wisdom in choosing the messages and messengers for the highest benefit for all involved continues to be greater than the knowledge at hand for those in the room.
I know for sure, I continue to learn from both worlds.
I love my clients on both sides of the veil. They show up to connect and as I share the messages, they follow with sharing their favorite memories and the spirits what they know and have learned.
I continue to make daily connection with spirit, write and strengthen my channel. Like any skill or muscle, it continues to grow. Spirits encourage, teach and help me know I am on the right path. It is a path which allows others to gain insights for healing. Thank you to all of you who have shared your journey with me.
Blessings to all on our journeys,
Sometimes the pain feels crippling. Other times it just hurts. It’s a Wonderful Life is one of my favorite movies. In it, George Bailey, played by Jimmy Stewart, wore a black arm band after his father died.
1. Tender Time and Support. I often think it would be wonderful if we did wear a black arm band to signal to one another when we are grieving. It would be great if we were a little kinder, more patient, and tender with those who have lost a loved one. There are no time limits on loss. We learn to live without our loved ones on earth by giving ourselves tender time. And, we keep in contact with those who understand and can provide support, or tender time, too. This may be family, friends, support groups or counseling.
2. Acknowledge Grief Factors. There are so many factors impacting grief. How our loved one died. Our relationship at the time of death. Whether we were together or not. Whether we thought there was something we could have done and were unable to do it. The list could go on. And, if your family was chaotic, filled with substance use, chronic illness and/or violence, grief is often complicated by these factors and mixed roles between adults and children.
3. Love Lives On. One of the many things I love about what I do is I know love lives on. Each time I have the privilege to bring through a message from the other side for someone, I get to feel the love the spirit sends. Even spirits not known for communicating strong caring or concern when they were on earth, make it clear they chose to be at the reading because they care. Know the grief exists because you love. Know love lives on and let love help carry you through the grief.
Trusting and conveying love,