“It Was Exactly What I Needed to Hear” – 3 Dad Messages for Father’s Day

I love my work as a psychic medium. Spirit decides which messages and messengers each person needs the most.  As Father’s Day draws near, I’d like to share some special Dad messages with you. The personalities of the dads who passed shined, brightened the room and let their adult children know exactly who was there.


“It’s your dad. He came in, sat right beside you and asked if he could stay there for the rest of the hour. He says you were his favorite.”

The daughter laughed. “Oh, I was and everyone knew it, too!” She laughed because although she came from a large family, he would always say he wasn’t afraid to say she was his favorite. She wasn’t surprised that’s what he said. He always made her feel special and important. Just hearing those words took her right back to that feeling. “Jane, it wouldn’t matter who said what about it. We walked and talked for hours. He was my best friend. He was the best.” She also felt the love fill the room.


It’s rare for physical things to happen when I do readings.  Yet as I did one more walk through a half hour before a guest arrived, there was something on the floor. I wondered if a bug got in. I walked over to see a picture hook sitting on the floor of the doorway of my reading room. I looked around and noticed a large picture missing from the wall. The picture was intact, on the floor behind the couch. The hook had to fly 5 feet to land where it did so I would notice it. Next, water sloshed from my cup. Okay, I thought. Someone’s trying to get my attention. “Is it the picture? You want me to mention the picture?” A sense of knowing filled me. I would mention the picture.

My guest arrived. I welcomed her, introduced myself and what to expect from the reading.  I also told her I needed to tell her about something unusual that happened I believed I was meant to discuss with her. “Before you arrived, a picture fell off the wall.”

“Oh my God,” she said. “A picture fell off an easel at my Dad’s funeral. I knew it was him. The pastor running the service said it wasn’t, but I knew it was.” Her Dad affirmed it was him and went on to say it was his way of telling her he was at the service and pleased with it. This was important to her because he had let her know he hadn’t liked someone else’s service so she wanted to get his right. She wept. “Just like him to make an entrance,” she said.


Another Dad told his son, “You’re a great dad.” Tears spilled down the son’s cheeks. His father died before the son’s children were born. That’s all the son wanted to do; get it right. The Dad went on, “You’re so much like me; you see the good in people, no matter what.”  

The Dad laughed when the son asked him for relationship advice. “I really don’t think I’m in any position to give any advice in that area.” The son laughed and agreed. “You need to trust yourself,” the Dad added. “You know the right answer.”


Each of these children, ages 45-75 years, said they thought of their dad every day. Each said the message was “exactly what I needed to hear.”

As Father’s Day approaches, what message do you need to hear?

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Relax, Know and Trust ~ The Soul Journey Experience

Relax ~ Take a deep breath, let it out slowly and ease into well-being. How would you like to relax into the answers already inside you this summer? Access your inner wisdom and do so at a pace that feels good for you. Summer speeds by us and we are often left wondering where it went. How would you like to be able to know you spent your summer well, feel like you are in a better place in your life journey and trust and appreciate where your life is headed from here?

Relax, Know and Trust ~ The Soul Journey Experience TM provides the framework for you to access the answers you seek. The Journey begins with a 1:1 psychic medium reading, followed a week later by a processing appointment. Journey readings are powerful readings. Readings give knowledge and support creating a strong base for your exploration. From there, you Relax into the process with group on line information and discussion sessions on Relax and Know. When these components are complete, you have uncovered Treasure inside you. You are ready for your second individual reading and process appointment. The finale is the group Trust and information components.

Invest in yourself this summer. Relax into your Soul Journey.

I will be interviewed live on the Love and Light podcast next Friday, June 7 at 11 am CST on Relax, Know and Trust ~ The Soul Journey Experience and get you started on being able to Relax, anytime, anywhere. Do it, for you.

Memorial Day

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Jeffrey’s reading impacted all of us in the room that night. I think about the many other veterans who remember those they’ve lost every day. And their families. I am blessed to use the gift I have to serve others. This Memorial Day, I would like to take a moment of silence (pause) to recognize those who are ‘no longer able to wear the uniform,’ having traded their lives for our freedom. Thank you for observing this moment with me.

To enter the drawing:

  1. Be part of those honored in May as part of National Military Appreciation Month – or someone directly connected who also ‘served’; partners, children, or parents of service personnel.

2. On my ihaveamessageforyou Facebook Page: like the page and share the post: Memorial Day: Jeffrey’s Message. (Click Facebook icon on bottom of homepage to be taken to my FB page.)

Enter through the end of traditional Memorial Day, Thursday, May 30th, 2019. In addition to Memorial Day, it was my brother, Dale’s birthday. He was the spirit who told me he could tell me anything I wanted to know about my ability to communicate with spirit. He showed me I would be a psychic medium, author and teacher in this area.

I will draw the winner from entries received meeting the above requirements: military served or immediate family; liked the Facebook Page and shared the post. Winner will be announced on Facebook, on Friday, May 31, at 2 CST.

May is National Military Appreciation Month.

Again, thank you all for your courage, sacrifice and service.

Jane I Have a Message for You

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What’s the Best Possible Thing that Could Happen?

When’s the last time you asked yourself what’s the best possible thing that could happen? I’m smiling as I write this. This morning, as I prepared to post on LinkedIn, a piece on trusting God, I journaled.  Journaling is my way of communicating with God and yes, He answers.

As I journaled about writing a LinkedIn post, something I never did before, I was about to write, what’s the wor . . . I am sure you can finish the word. It’s the opposite of this post’s title. And I stopped and laughed. Why would I want to write out anything except All the Good Things Possible if I post? There could be so many! I set up my note paper to write a list of 20. As I psychic medium, I know everything always works out.

So often we prepare ourselves for the worst instead of putting out the intention of expecting and experiencing the best. I am glad I went with the positive. And guess what? I am happy and productive. I posted on LinkedIn, Facebook and have this blog post finished by 9:03 am. Lots of good things happened already today by asking the question, What’s the Best Possible Thing that Could Happen? Next up, figure out how to post the All Good Things List, call the accountant and continue to write.

Hoping you, too, look for the best possible things!



Thankful Today

It’s Monday of the week of Thanksgiving. You can start Black Friday shopping, the biggest commercial sales event of the year, at a variety of places already, preparing for the next holiday. My heart is full today. Today is a great place to be.

Today, I meditated to a free AP, Insight Timer, information shared with me by a friend. I particularly like Moving Kundalini Meditation by Shakti Sutriasa. The same friend receives an email with my gratitude list, sometimes 2 different lists, a day.

I listened to my new favorite song today, Have It All by Jason Mraz, which I heard in a public restroom for the first time this weekend. There was a waitress in the restroom who encountered me standing there delighted to my toes, taking it in. “Have you heard this?” I asked.

“Three times,” she said, “Over the speakers here,” she gestured up, although she did not know the name of it.  I Googled the refrain and then returned to the table although I had already said my goodbyes. I played it for the two friends who remained at the table. I shared it on my Facebook Page, jane@ihaveamessageforyou.net because it’s brilliant, loving and wonderful. Thank you, Jason Mraz, for sharing your gift.

There is so much in this life; love, loss, sorrow, grief, happiness, hope, laughter, loneliness, contentment, achievement and gratitude. I have the privilege of hearing grief journeys in my work every day. I have been given a great gift, to know there is so much more to life than there is here, and it is available to all of us. Those who connect with their loved ones have the courage to walk their grief journeys and live their lives to the best of their abilities, knowing more.

Love lives on. I feel it in my meditation. I know it through my work. I feel and know it in my home and family. My heart is full, spilling love.  Embracing life, living life, with all of you, having the courage to accept life and sometimes love it, flaws and all. I am thankful today, to be able to share the journey.




3 Ways to Honor the Love of the Past, Present and Future

As a psychic medium, it’s my privilege helping people reconnect with spirits who most influenced and impacted their lives. As I reflect on recent readings, the word honor resonates with me. As a verb, it means to show great respect. Here is how you can honor the past, present and future.

1.Spirit reaches out and nudges when they want to connect because they have messages for you. Honor the spirit who is encouraging you to receive a message. Make an appointment to receive it. Someone from your past wants to connect in your present.

2.Honor thy Father and Mother, sibling and friend. Loss of parents, or spouses, friends, children and other relatives to the other side all leave their mark on us. Psychic medium readings can offer priceless comfort and encouragement. Those who lost their parents when they were young, say they miss their parents more over the course of their lives. Being able to connect can be a priceless gift honoring your relationship. This gift in the present can have lasting positive effects on the future.

3.Honor your journey. We are all on a journey through this life, with help, hope and inspiration along the way. If you are being nudged to get a reading, allow yourself to connect. Give great respect to your journey. Those who do honor their journeys, find it springs them forward in pleasant and unanticipated ways.

This time of year can be especially meaningful for connecting. Honor or in other words show great respect for this Love from the Past, in the Present and send it to the Future. Embrace this greatest gift you can share this holiday season, individually or as a small group.

Peace and joy,


Do You Miss Mom?

As a psychic medium, I know the joy of connecting someone with their Mom. A rush of love fills me as the energy of Mom, Mum, Mother, Momma, or as some knew their mom, Best Friend, fills the room. Clients tell me they, too, can feel the love energy. I can see a change in my clients as the love permeates their being.

Almost every day, I see a post on Facebook for someone missing their Mom. It’s an ache, a wish to connect with her, know again her familiarity, words, laughter, encouragement or get one more hug.

Medium messages strip away time, sickness, sadness, and relive the joy and love she brought to lives. Sessions can even build understanding of difficult times endured together.

The healing experienced in sessions is heartfelt and life-changing. It can bring a better perspective on one’s own journey, relationships and where you want to go and how you want to live from this day forward.

I feel blessed to have this ability and be able to share it with you. Many Clients tell me they find they miss their parents more as they age than they did in their early adult lives.

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When the Student is Ready, the Message Appears

There is a saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” As a psychic medium, I believe messages are teachers, often coming from those who love us and knew us best.  The messages I get to deliver are often positively transformational, in the best possible ways, for the recipient. And, I get the same opportunity to receive messages and experience transformation as my clients.

In my frequently asked questions (FAQ’s), I address the fact spirit decides on the messenger and the messages.  I find spirit also provides nudges and encouragement to those who need to receive messages.

As I started the process of working as a medium, our deceased dad was made available to me to reach yet another level of healing, healing work I began 30 years ago. I smile as I write this. I used to refer to him by his first name, Richard, and yet thought my work with that relationship was complete. By the end of my work that weekend, I started referring to him as our Dad.  He thanked me for allowing him to be a part of that weekend work; it helped him understand how his behavior affected others. He didn’t get that while he was here on earth.

I can talk to our Mom who passed in 1997 freely.  Mom brought through our paternal grandmother this summer. This act alone was a sign of family healing.  Our grandmother wanted to own her part in creating unhealthy family dynamics by how she raised our dad and hadn’t held our dad and grandfather accountable for their behavior.

Our grandmother let me know I would have the opportunity to speak to our grandfather when I wanted.  I knew little about him. He told me about how he grew up.  He didn’t make excuses for his behavior.  In fact, he apologized.  The information helped me understand our family more.

Next, a former supervisor showed up and gave me credit for holding him accountable, something that had been extremely stressful for me.  The supervisor let me know we had agreed to our roles before we ever got to earth, and both played them well.  He said I handled it professionally and I needed to know I could hold people I perceived in power accountable. He also let me know a former abuser would be available to me when I was ready.

I was ready.  I told the abuser exactly what I thought of his behavior.  He agreed with me and went further to say he was lucky he died when he did because he doesn’t know too many husbands and fathers who would have tolerated what he did if they knew. He also let me know he is working to be of service to others now and he would NOT show up to talk to me again unless I requested it and he could be of service to me.

So if you are being nudged to receive a message, relax, know and trust.  I believe you are being nudged because you are loved, supported and ready. Amazing things happen in this work.


The Relax, Know and Trust Lady

3 Steps to Embracing Your Life Path

I am the Relax, Know and Trust Lady.  It’s what I do. It’s what works. And if asked, it’s the message I share with others, too.

I was a person who was sure I could figure anything out if I just put in more effort, more time, more work. I wanted to succeed and was willing to work for it.  I put in long hours, worried and lost sleep.

I knew good self-care habits; how to eat healthy, meditate and exercise.  And, the more stressed I got, the more of the good habits I left behind in my efforts to work harder. I gave more of my time to work.  Often, these work situations I didn’t cause and couldn’t control, and I didn’t want to believe I couldn’t fix.  I would think if I could be creative enough, think of the right words or logical argument, I would be able to accomplish everything on my to do list.  Not.

I worked in the non-profit world, often with amazing people. People motivated me to want to figure it all out, whether my coworkers or the families we served who had more than the average amount of life challenges. I wanted to be sure staff got raises, families got services and waiting lists were eliminated.  And sometimes, there weren’t services available for families and the backup systems couldn’t help either. Regulations changed often.  Eventually, I hoisted the white flag and surrendered.

Surrendering meant I did what I know works:  Relax, Know and Trust.  Relaxing for me does not include reaching for alcohol, drugs or sweets.  I find they cause more problems and self-loathing on top of the original stress.  Relaxing for me requires I shut off the outside world and quiet my mind. I take time and space for myself.  I need to breathe, deeply.  I need to be able to hear my soothing, peaceful higher self, God, and the guidance offered within me.

When I relax, I tap into wisdom and knowing which will be able to help me decide the next right thing to do.  Relaxed, I take pen to paper and write out what I know.  I know the kind, loving, spirit who has been with me this entire journey and tells me I am delightful, is present, waiting to communicate with me.  There is no chastising; no, “Where have you been?” There is a smile for me.  The spirit is happy I have chosen to connect whenever I choose to connect.  The spirit knows me, loves me and wants what is best for me.  And, is honest with me in a loving way.  The have to’s and shoulds fall away as we communicate about what is at hand and what I need and what I want to do. I document the entire conversation.  It’s important to have in writing what I know in this relaxed state because history has proven this is how I know the next right thing or direction for my life.

And, it’s priceless to have what I know in writing when trust is the next step on my path.  I relax into trusting, knowing everything will work out. I have plenty of experience with everything working out. However, the feelings in the moment can be very uncomfortable while trusting everything will work out. I don’t get to pick the time table when things will happen. And affirming the plan helps in my resolve to act on the plans or directions I now have laid out and to stay the course.

My life has had plenty of challenges.  I have a sexual abuse history that started as a young child. I come from a divorced family with a myriad of health problems including alcoholism.  I have had to set boundaries, limits and work hard to resolve obstacles to my growth.  Today, I love my family and I love life. I get to help people by delivering messages with an ability I was told I needed to keep secret because people would think I was crazy.  I witness people begin to transform their lives while we are together for an hour connecting with those who have passed on.  I see lots of tears. I am relaxed with tears because I know and I trust they are healing, heartfelt and often joyful.

I wonder, when was the last time you used the word joyful in your life? As the Relax, Know and Trust Lady, I use the word joyful in my life almost daily.

It doesn’t mean my life is pain-free.  Walking with people as they heal some of life’s deeply painful hurts, definitely impacts me.  Relaxing and knowing I am on the right path and trusting everything works out, brings me joy. I am grateful, humbled and feel privileged to be able to do the work I do, delivering messages.  I understand even with the ability I have, not everyone would choose to do the work I do.  I get to help people heal and that’s pretty cool.

I invite you to embrace your life path, whether you are called to contact me to receive a message you are ready to hear or follow these three simple, although not always easy, steps.  Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. You, too, have intuition.  It may not be to the degree that I do and, it’s been there all along.  The question is, will you let it help you?

When I questioned whether I could deliver messages for a living, I was shown a road which began at my door and extended through hills into the horizon.  On it, were people 3 and 4 across, completely covering the road, coming to see me to receive their messages.  I knew my services would be in demand. After resigning a full time job and making space in my life for this healing work, the picture changed. People were also relaxing on the first two hills. On the right, people were reading books I had written and on the left, I was leading a workshop.

Join me and embrace your life’s path,

The Relax, Know and Trust Lady

5 Things I Know For Sure from Being a Psychic Medium

The late Gene Siskel, interviewer and movie critic, asked Oprah Winfrey, “What do you know for sure?”  She couldn’t immediately answer.  It took thought and consideration.  Eventually, this question became a monthly column in her magazine.

Saying we know something for sure, reveals who we are and what we believe. When choosing what I know for sure, I expect it will remain true over time. Mediums use their 6th sense to communicate so are considered psychic – although not all psychics communicate with those who pass on. As a medium, I communicate with those who have passed on. When delivering information, evidence is information that verifies what is being reported is true.  I experience my own evidence from the readings I provide as the result of being a psychic medium.  What follows is my evidence or 5 things I know for sure as the result of being a psychic medium:

I know for sure, love lives on.

Psychic medium reading after reading, event after event, spirits come through with information and support to guide us because love lives on. Spirit wants us to find our true purpose and live our best lives.  We can get stuck along the way with grief, feelings of remorse, depression and loss.  We are human, and the experience can be overwhelming in the best of times.  Our loved ones and spirit guides provide evidence of their love and support through a myriad of ways when we are open to experiencing this evidence. We may be seeing their favorite things or hearing their favorite songs, or seeing an advertisement for somewhere special you traveled together.  Communication is the most direct way you know your loved one lives on, whether they communicate with you or through a medium.

I know for sure, we are not alone on this journey.

Spirit dads, moms, grandmas, grandpas, friends, sons, daughters and beloved dogs have let me know they were there on earth and provide support now from the other side. At readings, I have seen family members in spirit gathered to support the person in for the reading.

I know for sure, I witness healing daily.

Last week in 3 separate readings, three different spirits, who were actively alcoholic on earth, came through with messages for the living. Each message was different. Their departures from life as we know it ranged from 1 week to 25 years ago.   Each spirit provided evidence for the recipient with facts from their life. It was powerful, and each recipient was grateful for the message and its healing impact.

I know for sure, spirit decides who will come through with what messages.

I encourage clients to invite spirits they would most like to hear from and yet, spirit decides who will bring forward which messages.  Sometimes the spirit who shows is exactly who the client most wanted to hear from and sometimes it is someone the client had not thought about in a very long time because the person had died so long ago. Watching time fall away as the message brings them right back together and makes the relationship whole again, shows clients love lives on. The wisdom in choosing the messages and messengers for the highest benefit for all involved continues to be greater than the knowledge at hand for those in the room.

I know for sure, I continue to learn from both worlds.

I love my clients on both sides of the veil.  They show up to connect and as I share the messages, they follow with sharing their favorite memories and the spirits what they know and have learned.

I continue to make daily connection with spirit, write and strengthen my channel.  Like any skill or muscle, it continues to grow.  Spirits encourage, teach and help me know I am on the right path.  It is a path which allows others to gain insights for healing. Thank you to all of you who have shared your journey with me.

Blessings to all on our journeys,